Are you still in the closet?

Are you stuck?
Feeling you need to hide your true self in the shadows for fear of judgement?

With so many people embracing spirituality, it’s interesting that so many of us are still a little shy to come out in all our sparkly glory.

I thought I was well and truly ‘out’, I’m openly spiritual, I talk all things moon energy, energetic shifts, manifestation and crystals, but. the other day someone asked me for my website and all of a sudden, I found myself sneaking backward into the safety of that spiritual closet. Just enough that I wasn’t out and exposed. I didn’t share it.

It got me thinking, why do we feel we can’t be authentic for fear of judgement. What’s the worst that could happen? Someone doesn’t believe in all the goodness of what we know to be true? They think we’re a little odd… do we care? Yup… evidently ‘WE’ do.

It’s tricky to juggle the corporate landscape with one that is all love and light. For the most part, I felt I was doing it well, so why was I reluctant to be that way with this one person?

If one of my clients came to me with this story, I would ask them what it is that makes them nervous to be open? What’s the worst that can happen? Well in a world where we are judged by the constraints society puts on us, the way we look, the money we earn, and the clothes we wear, maybe it feels like a way to ensure we aren’t judged for that one last thing. The thing that is the light in our day. It’s about being vulnerable and sometimes we need the experiences to realise, oooh… there’s that one last little area where I am not truly myself. Well, I found it.

So what are we going to do about it? We share stories and experiences of coming ‘out’ and realise that it’s not that bad. For the most part, the people who judge are not the people who matter. It could be your family (ok they do matter..), your friends, your groups or colleagues. How can we find peaceful solutions? How open do we need to be and where do we need protection.
Is it a bad thing to recognise potentially uncomfortable points and gently say no thank you?

There is no one clear solution, but there’s an opportunity to inspire and be inspired.

I have witnessed so many people coming out in one big burst of light and others slowly shining a little brighter until they radiate all over the place. Each story is different, and each situation is unique so the more stories we share the more we inspire.

Have you come out? How did you do it? I want to hear your story. Reach out and let me know. Let’s share and support. You can email me, message me, or share it here if you like, either way, sing your story from the rooftops and help others find the strength to do so too.

So, what did I do when I felt myself sneaking backwards, turning down the dimmer on my light when asked for my site. After assessing all the feelings, really tuning into how I felt and why, I took a deep breath and sent the damn thing. I jumped straight off that cliff and guess what baby, I flew. Nothing bad happened. No one judged, in fact, the person told me they couldn’t be any happier that I was finally doing this.

Go for it. Trust. Jump in. Don’t try to convert people, just gently place your position on the table and smile.

You’ve so got this.

Shine on you crazy diamond.